What to do when your partner is going through a very strong and intense experience? Maybe the intensity comes out in big, strong ways as they are not able to self-regulate in that moment. Maybe they are paralysed by the situation and it is clearly there and it is obvious they are not letting it out.
When Your Partner Freaks Out Read Post »
Relationship can brings up fears, often hidden as background noise. These fears often interact with the fears of our loved one and set up dynamics between you, One of these dynamics is the interplay between the fear of losing the relationship and the fear of losing ourselves within the relationship.
One thing you might not have understood about starting a family was how it would impact your sex life. I wonder sometimes if it’s one of those ‘Fight Club’ things – once you are a parent you never mention it. In my experience it is quite confusing, frustrating and leaves you wondering what happened.
What Happened to Sex? Read Post »
I’m a huge advocate for high quality listening. Most of our family and couple challenges can be solved when we choose to really listen to each other and discover what is going at a deeper level. Empathy, though, should never be an enabler of abuse from anyone. We also need to speak up to set limits.
As parents we both want to keep a loving and mutually respectful relationship with our daughter while guiding her to learn what she needs to be a thriving adult and venture into the world in a few years. Our parenting styles complement each other as we prepare for the next challenge – teenage years.
The Family Contract Read Post »
I’ve been working in the self-development industry for 30 years as a trainer, coach and participant. In personal development programmes, although I haven’t kept any consistent data, I would guess that around 80 to 85% of participants are women. So what happens when men are not developing themselves?
Where are all the Men? Read Post »
Often I make it hard for others to hear me. 40 words or less is a reminder to keep to the essential points and, where I have a lot to say, to chunk it into easily digestible pieces. It is my responsibility to make it as easy as possible to hear me. After all, if I express myself I want to be heard.
Just because we decided to be together does not mean that we agree to complete submission to each-others’ needs. There are times when I choose to do my own thing. Times when I’m away from home for long or short periods. With kids around there are often times when their needs are much more pressing.
Taking Care of Yourself Read Post »
By choosing whether to focus on what you dislike or what you like, you create your own experience and attitude towards your partner. Life looks quite different when you focus on what you like rather than what you don’t. Your partner hasn’t changed, only your focus and this is something you choose.
Do You Like Your Partner? Read Post »
Date night is standard advice for parents looking to reconnect as a couple. Every week you find someone to take care of the kids and then spend a wonderful evening and night together. After a few hours you feel like young lovers again and all the stress and strain of life will be gone. Yeah, right!
10 Tips for Date Night Read Post »
